While it may be a common fantasy, participating in group sex is a lot more complicated than many would like to believe. Sex between two people can be relatively straightforward, but bringing a third person (or more) into the bedroom adds a level of complexity that can be sexually stimulating or utterly frustrating. Before taking the plunge and trying it out, here are some questions to consider.

Is it safe?

As is the case with all types of sex, there are inherent risks associated with group sex. During group encounters, practicing safe sex is all the more important. With each person you have in the room, the chances of someone involved having an STD increases. Remember, some of the most common STDs carry few to no visible symptoms. Depending on

the male to female ratio, it’s likely that you’ll go through more than one condom in order to keep things as clean as possible. Never use the same condom on two separate people, as this could lead to the transmission of an STD.

What about jealousy?

Jealousy can be a big issue when it comes to threesomes or moresomes, especially for couples who are considering opening things up. Talking about sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend well before you move on to welcoming someone else into your sex life is essential. If either party feels hesitant, then it’s best to shelve the idea. Nothing can turn a group experience sour faster than when one person feels left out or jealous.

If you do think that you can put your jealous feelings aside, it’s still best to set up a few ground rules. For instance, you may want to consider if kissing is acceptable, or if that tender act should be saved for only those members of the group who are in a committed relationship.

Who should be invited into my bedroom?

Whether you’re a couple looking to try something new or a single person searching for multiple companions, picking your additional partner or partners is a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. You’ll want someone you can trust who won’t create any unnecessary drama. Of course, he, she or they should be physically attractive to all other members of the get together, and on the same page concerning what is OK and what is unacceptable bedroom behavior. Everyone must know the rules, especially those that pertain to safe sex.